Juneteenth is the oldest nationally celebrated commemoration of the ending of slavery in the United States. Dating back to 1865, it was on June 19th that the Union soldiers, led by Major General Gordon Granger, landed at Galveston, Texas with news that the war had ended and that the enslaved were now free. Note that this was two and a half years after President Lincoln’s Emancipation Proclamation – which had become official January 1, 1863.
I grew up in Berkeley, California where we’ve have held a Juneteenth celebration (which regularly falls on Father’s Day) since I was a teenager. This gathering was a ritual for us. Today, alongside the thousands of people who celebrate this commemoration every year, there is an explosion of recognition for June 19th, 1865; the day the news of emancipation finally reached the last enslaved African Americans in Galveston, Texas.
In and through all that we’ve experienced in the world these past couple of months, we’ve somehow found ourselves at a juncture where the media, corporations, social platforms and people everywhere have decided to use Juneteenth to honor, celebrate, connect, (placate, manage guilt) and take action in this time of Global Reset and Black Lives Matter activism.
I have many feelings about this and many things I could say. As I’ve been doing in abundance lately, I choose stillness. After being still I realized that I could focus on all the ways our recent circumstances have made a mockery of freedom OR I could choose to focus on the ways I am free in this moment…
I am free to kiss my remarkable husband as I leave our home
To receive a bear hug from my (all of a sudden taller than me) baby boy
To kiss my daughter’s adult cheeks
To have an inspired conversation with a friend and mentor
To sit on a public bench with snacks and a thought-provoking book
To laugh on a chat thread with my inner circle of powerhouse sisters
To feel loved, supported and respected to support and guide clients who are thriving even in the midst
To move my body at will in healthy and energetic ways
To make money doing what I love and in my zone of genius
To look out at this view as I write this message
To breathe and fight and shine in honor of those who cannot
What is your form of freedom in this moment? Comment below or in my group.
What does the journey look like when you feel the pull to be, do or have more than what you experience right now?
Stop right here for a second. Check in with how that sentence made you feel… Perhaps a bewildered, “I’m on it and I still don’t know!” OR an energized, “That’s what I’m trying to figure out.” OR a guilt-ridden, “I’m blessed, I shouldn’t want more than I already have”.
Hey no judgement here! In my experience, we’ve all felt one of these at different times in our lives. Often it’s at this point, staring (or peeking) into the unknown, that fear creeps up and takes over. The weight of not knowing, trying to figure it all out and wondering if you even deserve what you desire will have you trapped in your comfort zone for years. Yep, years.
I often talk to people who feel a longing for transformation and they want to know if what they feel is real.
“Am I really being called toward something? If I am, then what? I’m just not sure how or if it’s even possible.”
This is my short and sweet definition of the “Journey” of a Calling. See if you find yourself on the continuum; comment below and let me know where.
I am not going to lie, this can be tricky. I think when the Universe/Spirit/Intuition calls, it whispers on purpose. Why? Because you have to listen in order to hear a whisper. You must make enough space available between everybody and everything trying to grab your attention for the small sound to get through. And once you THINK you hear something, you must trust that you heard it. Thankfully, the whisper will continue until it seems like it’s shouting; In reality, you’ve only trained your ear to hear and trust the sound. Being called may ‘sound’ like coincidences, dreams, the same vision or thought over and over again, “Something said I should__”, opportunities showing up or simply a strong desire.
One definition of activation is: the act of making something start or making it start working.This is taking the thing off the Vision Board and into your life. You may have lots of experience with this. Researching, getting a certification, choosing names and titles, starting a chapter, taking classes, telling everyone about it, doing two weeks of a 9 week plan, drafting an email, setting up a dating profile, signing up for a gym membership… Need I go on? For many, it’s a great start with good intentions, and then for any number of reasons, the fires burn out. Write this one down! The secret to this crucial part of the journey is Inner Activation. Mindset is a huge part of ‘making something start’. You must BE, before you do, in order to have, and sustain.
Being in Action:
Ahh, the sweet spot. Here, you are doing the thing, in the arena, hands dirty, full throttle (even with baby steps). This is where you (or others) experience fulfillment, results, outcomes and impact from the steps you are taking. In this part of the journey you’ve put something in place to encourage or ensure consistency. It could be systems, other’s expectations, a commitment, check-ins, partners and/or accountability.
Notice there’s no endpoint. Just like life, this journey is cyclical. While in Action you may feel yourself being called to elevate what you’re doing or eventually you’ll hear the call toward something else. It’s all good, it’s all life.
There are highs and lows in each section. You could be miserable while in Action. Some experience an extreme high in Activation. Being Called can be both exhilarating and scary as hell. Yep, life once again.
And as life will show you, it’s a beautiful thing.
I’m thrilled to say that no matter what part of the journey my clients find themselves experiencing, they’ve thrived with the expert guidance, transformative strategies and like-minded, powerful community of Alchemy.
Within the nine months of support Alchemy provides, you will:
Discover how to welcome, recognize and answer when you are being called, whisper or not.
Train and grow your muscle of Faith so that it is stronger than the fear that tries to keep you stuck.
Master decision-making and time management formulas to combat your overwhelm and exhaustion.
Form an inner circle of women that goes against the supposed norm: Noncompetitive, supportive, fun, inspired & smart.
Design a plan with achievable steps that align with your individual personality and life.
Finally put your plan in action with intention, accountability & guidance.
Create fulfillment in your life and impact in the world.
Learn from a coach who accepts you as you areAND will challenge, stretch, nurture, encourage and inspire you to be your most powerful divine self.
Doors are closing soon, we begin next week! If you are ready for your journey, click here to apply and we’ll be in touch soon. xo
“Sometimes we feel like we’re in life alone. Kysha was definitely a pivotal part in helping me at a time when I needed a friend, accountability, and a positive mindset to push me forward.” Alchemy 2019
“Thank you so much Kysha for these months in Alchemy. It has been an amazing and powerful life-transforming experience for me. Thank you for every session, every challenge, every tool, every resource, all of the encouragement, everything that you’ve provided.” Alchemy 2018
Almost 5 years ago when I made the decision to combine my words, 12 years of study and my heart on a blog for public consumption, it felt bold, terrifying… and necessary.
Every time I turned around, there was something related to what I wanted to do in my face. I would happen to see a book or magazine article that related. People would mention that they needed exactly what I was thinking about doing. Resources and encouragers showed up. It felt like everything was lining up except for ME.
I would decide on a date and then put it off. Write something and then tell myself there was no way anyone would read it. I’d sabotage myself by doing things for EVERYONE else until I was too tired to do my stuff.
While stepping into the courage to start a vlog (translation: a blog with videos of me after testing 10 places in my house trying to find good light and taking 2 hours to make one 15 minute video), I had no idea it would turn into a thriving business that would positively touch the lives of hundreds of women.
I was deep in self-pity for what I believed were my “failures”.
I was exhausted all the time because I was always BUSY taking care of everything but my desires.
I knew I was blessed and constantly felt guilty for wanting MORE.
I had tons of ideas and balls in the air but PROCRASTINATION & FEAR kept me always “about to do something”.
I’m rehashing all of this to say, I know exactly what it feels like. To know in your heart that there is more waiting for you but frustrated because you’re not moving at all or not fast enough.
I am a Passionate Advocate for NOW
Listen. Next year, some day, one day, after I finish ______ and eventually is too damn far away. Life is too short and too exquisite to put off living out loud any longer.
What piece of your vision can you engage today?
Do you long to be creative again? Doodle for 10 minutes, rearrange your living room, grab an adult coloring book.
Looking for a promotion or different position? Explore job listings. Ask a higher level question or reach out to one person that could help.
Have you been putting off a health journey? Park at the far end of the parking lot and walk. Put more veggies than meat on your plate tonight. Stretch before bed.
Is there a book or a business in you waiting to be birthed? Spend an hour in a bookstore. Write one sentence, yep just one. Look up a similar business and ask yourself what you would do differently. Imagine your product/book/service in someone’s hand.
I’d love to know what piece of your vision you can engage in, comment with an idea.
It would be total “fake news” to say I went from procrastination and feeling stuck to serving powerhouse women without support. I needed (and still get) encouragement, I received guidance and accountability, and I depended on my mentors and like-minded community.
I am inviting you to experience this and more inside of my 9 month Group Experience: Alchemy – The Feminine Formula for Authentic Success.
We begin in less than 2 weeks so doors will be closing soon.
Alchemy includes my signature system, action & support so you can:
Clarify what you are meant to do and which path has the most grace & ease for your life.
Shift your mindset into a feminine & personal idea of success that expands you but is achievable in the near future.
Finally create a plan with well-thought out steps, accountability and guidance while you are taking action.
A memory of my father came to me the other day as I contemplated my vision for 2020: The amount of people I’d like to touch with my message, the women’s lives that will be transformed as a result of my coaching & community, the trips we want to take our kids on, the amazing health I want to experience, the good we can do with an upsurge of income…
The picture that popped in my head was of myself and my little brother on the floor in front of the TV. I don’t remember what we were watching but I do remember the intense fear I felt at what was on the screen. I must’ve screamed, put my hands over my eyes or started to run away because my dad grabbed my arms, put his face in front of mine and said, “Look! Watch this.” He reached over to the television (yes good people, it was before remote controls, or at least before we had one lol), and switched it off. He looked at us and said:
“It isn’t real. It isn’t there anymore. What you were scared of isn’t real.”
Although I was relieved in the moment, my little stubborn Taurus mind thought, yeah easy for you to say daddy, wait until I try to go to sleep tonight! And that night, in true little kid form, the images I saw earlier came to haunt me. Guess what allowed me to go to sleep? I kept reminding myself that it just isn’t real.
Fast forward to today when the images that show up aren’t of ghosts and monsters (although when I think of certain tragedies and detained children☹), but of failure, disappointment, lack or the changes that success bring. Sound familiar?
Now, I know the spiritual reasons and brain science behind why these fears persist and why more than anything else they halt our flight. My father gave me a tool decades ago that I’ve used to take risks, defy stereotypes and elevate higher than poor little Black girls from the hood are expected to. Just like I did when thinking about the heights I plan on reaching in the years to come, I told myself, Kysha, the fears aren’t real. Yes, I do the work that stops me from repressing emotions or bypassing what comes up AND I remind myself of the truth.
“Of all the liars in the world, sometimes the worst are our own fears.” — Rudyard Kipling
Not unlike that TV show I watched in childhood, our fears are made up stories of frightening scenarios that have not happened. Stories of “what if” and “suppose..”. Here’s the clincher: It doesn’t matter if it has happened to you in the past or to someone else! The episode you’re watching in your mind is based on the future – future circumstances, future time, future you – and it DOES NOT EXIST.
You’ll be told no if you ask – not real
People won’t buy your stuff – not real
You won’t find love – not real
You’ll fail – not real
It won’t last – not real
You’ll have to go back – not real
You’ll lose friends and be alone – not real
You don’t have what it takes – not real
I bet some of you are like I was as a child: yeah easy for you say. I still say it too lol! I get it. Future scenario or not, sometimes the monster seems so real it won’t leave us alone. I’m going to let you in on an ancient-Kysha-secret. In those cases, I invite fear along for the ride! I say, “Look Fear, I’m taking the next step. If you won’t leave, then dammit, sit down and strap in! I’m going on this journey with you in tow”.
Acknowledge that you will be scared, often the whole damn time. The secret is, you can move WITH fear. Fear monsters get carsick! They are stronger and scarier in stagnation. When you are in motion, Fear will lower it’s voice, shrink in size and struggle to keep form.
Tweet this: “Fear gains power with stagnation and shrinks with motion. Move, even if it’s one step!”
Comment and let me know. The year is almost over, are you switching your fear to off or inviting it along?
I’ve decided to continue showcasing the incredible work that some of the women in the Elevate Your NOW community are doing. Enjoy, be inspired, follow and support!
Both of these amazing women received guidance around Clarity and Courage to step into the next chapter of their lives! I’m awed by their brilliance and impact in their communities. Restorative justice advocate Kusum Crimmel and Jewelry designer & motivational speaker Corinthia Peoples.
In honor of the whole year it’s been of missing him: Thank you for your lessons daddy ❤
I’ve experienced this literally & figuratively! Have you?
As some of you that have been following me or have been to any of my events this year may know, I had the first serious injury of my life in January. I experienced the disorienting and painful complete rupture of my right Achilles Tendon during a run-of-the-mill kickboxing training. This year-long healing process has been (and still is) both arduous and full of beautiful lessons.
One moment that has permanently lodged itself in my memory, was the doctor’s visit to get my purple (because Prince) cast removed. My excitement at seeing this awkward, heavy thing finally buzz-sawed off my leg was quickly replaced by devastation. The doctor asked me, quite casually, to move my foot and… I COULD NOT. Did you read that correctly? Because I couldn’t believe it. I’ve been a gym rat all my life, danced professionally all over the country, love any kind of movement and even though my brain sent the signal MOVE, my foot was still. Unmoving. Motionless. I’m tearing up just thinking about it.
In a moment I want you to close your eyes. Dissolve the image of the purple cast and my unresponsive foot. When was the last time YOU wanted with every fiber of your body to move forward, you KNEW you were ready, it was finally time, and you could not get yourself to move from where you were to where you wanted to be?
Perhaps it was:
Consistently showing up for a workout/class you already paid for
Offering your services at a price you know you deserve
Committing to eating in a way your heart/joints/blood pressure would appreciate
Allowing yourself to be open to a new relationship… in a new way
Starting the project/venture you’ve been dreaming about
Finishing your book, that followup email, the call to ask for a promotion, umm finishing anything!
All forward motion and/or growth requires an inner movement first. It can also be devastating to remain immobile internally. Instead of being unable to see movement physically, you feel the decay of stagnation.
I’ve said many times that I don’t teach, advise or coach my community in anything I haven’t used or live as a way of life. One of the many tools I pulled out of my bedazzled, brightly colored toolbelt to get me through these months of healing is the tool of Permission.
(Word nerd here) The root of the word Permission is broken down in two parts: forward & to let loose, let go
Often when we can’t move, it’s because we’re subconsciously holding tight to an identity we no longer want and haven’t had permission to move. Permission for you, by you! I don’t mean simply telling yourself yes, but a deep look into the empty space you are planning to occupy and what it’ll take to get there. I had to do this again & again when relearning to walk on 2 feet!
Without Permission you
Think being comfortable (even in pain) is better than the unknown
Allow yourself to stay scared spit-less of what’s ahead
Remain blind to the support, resources & skills you already have
Can’t assess whether it’s worth it to take the next step
Trick yourself into remaining powerless & unnecessarily fragile
Forget who you are – your Divine self
I remember the first step I took without crutches. Knowing how strong I am, how connected I am, I still was almost in tears with fear when my physical therapist suggested that I try. I looked at her with what I’m sure had to be a six year old’s face on the first day of school and you know happened? She held her hand out, I grasped it and walked. Without stumbling, a re-rupture, or pain of any sort. I was shocked and so grateful!
I’d like to hold a hand out to you right now. Join me for a breakthrough coaching session on Friday (info below) or reach out personally for an intro to giving yourself permission here.
Friday October 18th at 530pm. This is a breakthrough coaching sessionguiding you into giving yourself Permission to Succeed.Join on time for the opportunity for personal coaching with Kysha!Click here to sign up
I’ve decided to continue the pleasure I felt at Activate Your Calling when showcasing the incredible work that some of the women in the Elevate Your NOW community are doing. Enjoy, be inspired, follow and support!
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One is shock, which would be your car accident or losing your job or whatever it is. The next one is opportunity. Say, you fall in love and you get a chance to marry your soul mate, but it means changing everything. And the third is growth; you simply wake up one morning and what satisfied you yesterday is starting to feel empty.
Each of these paths toward a place where you must take a leap into the unknown, comes with its own story, healing & potential. Now let’s be real, there is always the option to slowly back away from the edge of the cliff, or just turn tail and run away! I think we’ve all experienced the avoidance that fear causes. AND we’ve also experienced the misery that stagnation (in the face of growth) can cause.
The cliff, as sweat-inducing and nerve-racking as it is, can be an opportunity to rewrite the next chapter of your life.
I feel like I’ve experienced each of the paths that Martha Beck describes. In my early twenties I was given the opportunity to choose love. Standing in the middle of the dance studio at my company rehearsal, sweaty and wondering why my boyfriend chose here to give me a birthday surprise, I stood in shock as he knelt with a ring box in his hand. The drums were playing, my director was beaming (unbeknownst to me, Eric had talked to him and my father already), members of the dance company were screaming, 6 of his best friends came into the room and for what seemed to be forever (to Eric especially lol), I didn’t hear any of it. I was slowly backing away from the edge of the cliff because:
I was 24
I was in school
I was a professional dancer
My parents were divorced
Most of my friends were raised by single moms
There was only 1 married couple in my neighborhood and they were NOT happy
Marriage didn’t work
I SAID I WOULD NEVER GET MARRIED
One of the reasons I know my success system works is because I’ve been using pieces of it my entire life. Even though my mind was a frightened, confused mess, my heart was willing. The Divine in me was clear. When I looked at my life 5, 10 years down the road, HE WAS THERE.
I had a choice and I took a running jump; I chose love. We’re still together and happy by the way lol. 22 married, 26 together.
There is an energy in the world right now that seems to be taking an alarming number of people down these different paths. Many are on this precipice teetering toward what could be bliss and NO ONE should be doing it alone. I encourage you to step off the cliff in community. Choose a supportive circle that you are already in or find a new one. My private Facebook group is always an option.
Are you currently at the edge? Which path did you travel to get there? Comment and let me know.
Guest Speaker announcement!
I am honored and excited to announce: The phenomenal Reverend Andriette Earl will be our Activate Your Calling guest speaker. She is well known and loved for her intuitive ability to lovingly lead toward breakthrough and transformation. Do. Not. Miss. This.
Rev. Andriette is the loving and dynamic Spiritual Leader of Heart and Soul Center of Light. A spiritually committed teacher, facilitator and “freedom coach”, Rev. Andriette is an “edu-taining” and empowering teacher of the principles of Divine Love and Law. She is a national magazine columnist, author of Embracing Wholeness: Living in Spiritual Congruence, and creator of the transformative board game, “Speak Your Word: The Freedom Game”. She sees the best in us and inspires us to be much more than we ever thought we could be.
I am celebrating the graduation of my fourth group coaching cohort, Alchemy!
These women have been stretching, trusting and transforming their lives with me for 9 months. They’ve had monumental shifts (in their inner & outer world) and achieved more than they set their intentions for.
“Last year I didn’t believe you when you said, ‘Everyone around you will benefit from your transformation’. But now I’ve seen it in my marriage, kids & even where I work! It has all shifted and all I do is smile now.” 2019 Alchemy Group Member
I love that although every group uses my Triple C Success System, each cohort is different in how they learn, process and transform. There were a few distinct learnings that made a difference for this group; I would love to share one of them with you. Inside the Clarity module we disrupt old paradigms that don’t serve us and step forward inside of new feminine ones. If you are like most powerhouse women, I think you could use this one:
The power of Good Enough – As women, we have been seduced into thinking the only way to be, is to be perfect. Whether it’s in school, parenting, creativity, simple tasks in the home or our careers. We’re bombarded with the false idea that in order for anyone to want us and recognize our true value – whether in the boardroom, bedroom or anywhere in between (yes I said it) – there is no other way to be… but perfect.
Are you ready for this?
Your “good enough” is exquisite! You know how you’ll write something and feel like it’s just not right? How you’ll plan a project, dinner or event and keep throwing stuff in to make it better? Ohhh, how about in the morning standing in front of the mirror feeling like absolutely nothing is working!?
What if? What if you surrendered right before your overwhelmed/frustrated/about to break point and just moved forward because it is good enough? Stopped planning, researching, editing, primping, sent the damn email, put on your shoes and left! I know what the outcome would be. An exhale and success.
Throughout the nine months of Alchemy, I encouraged these beautiful women to practice stopping at the point of good enough. Why? Because your ‘good enough’ is better than most people’s perfect! Tell me I’m wrong… When you overshoot, you put your mental health, relationships and physical body at risk.
The struggle towards perfect is a habit that inhibits you from moving forward when you finally take the leap into a better life. Kysha Mitchell
Is this helpful? Comment below and let me know when you need to let “good’ be enough. Also, If you’d like to get on the waiting list for information on this year’s Alchemy program starting in November, comment and I’ll be in touch.
At the beginning of a new year, well sometimes at the beginning of a new anything, we tend to speed up, avert our eyes and move swiftly past reflection toward what we hope will be a better experience. If we do spend some quiet time alone (or time with girlfriends over wine or ice cream) the human in ustends to look back over the thing we just finished, a relationship/job/diet/year, and highlight what went wrong.
“I kept saying I wouldn’t go back, but I did… I wouldn’t be in this situation if I’d spoken up… I just felt stuck all year… I knew what to do but didn’t do it… Why am I starting off the year broke again? Yep I tried that diet too, kind of.”
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not suggesting that we should be in denial. However, I guarantee you’ve already beat yourself up about those things once, if not 10 times already! Allow yourself to heal from the wounds these situations have caused and the reopening of flesh from the harsh words said to you, by you.
I’m encouraging the divine in you to consider reflecting on your past year in the following ways:
What did I learn last year?
What opportunities were offered to me (whether I accepted or not)?
What am I grateful for?
In what ways was I a BADASS? or those of you who don’t have a potty-mouth like me, In what ways did I SLAY?
When did I show up as the best version of myself?
What were the joy-filled, funniest or fun moments of 2018?
Sit a moment in stillness, pull out a pen and paper (or prepare to type) and come up with 3 to 10 things for each. Yes you will be able to! I’d love for you to leave a comment below or share in the Powerhouse Women Rising group.
I’ve wanted to post but kept procrastinating trying to think of clever things to write about.
The truth is, that while I’ve had an increase in clients (women I love and am so proud of), my kids have had a great summer, my husband and I are celebrating our 21st anniversary… I’VE BEEN ON AN EMOTIONAL ROLLERCOASTER! There is a lot of transition happening in our lives; among other things, we’re both worried about our parents’ health and the violence happening in our city.
In a few of my coaching sessions, my clients have expressed the craziness of trying to keep it together when life is good yet there are also things (happening internally and externally) threatening to take you under!
I have a daily spiritual practice of prayer and gratitude and although it keeps me centered, lately I’ve needed more! I decided to keep it real in this email and share my 3 keys to “keeping it together” while in the midst:
I allow myself to be emotional & vulnerable. Whew, let me tell you this does not come easy for me (and most powerhouse women)! Society has poisoned the link between powerful – and – emotional. Supposedly, one cancels the other out. I have found exactly the opposite. There is sooo much power & courage in being able to access and FEEL instead of run from your emotions. Being vulnerable means letting your defenses down. This happens when you are strong enough to believe that leaving yourself open doesn’t mean defeat, it means opening to love, support and witnessing.
I go on a negativity diet. Basically, I restrict my intake of anything that will lower my mood, vibration or attitude. I consciously avoid the channels, platforms & people that carry sadness, gossip, drama, things that will anger me or just general downers. Now some things you can’t avoid, like people lol, random conversations, news headlines, etc. When I come across these things, I refuse to click into articles or read comments (a definite no-no), engage people down their rabbit-holes and overall try my best to be aware, send blessings AND slowly back away.
I go deep into my calling! Out of these 3, this lifts my spirit the most. My calling to guide and empower women through coaching and community experiences helps me remember the truth, beauty & purpose of my life. It challenges me out of my ego and into my heart, it brings me joy, keeps me grateful and lets me know that no matter what else is going on, I am making an impact! Whether your calling is writing, dancing, cooking, a business, art… make some time to immerse yourself in it, even for 30 minutes.
What can you go deep into that brings you joy amidst chaos and change?
I’ve been pouring myself into creating a life-changing experience this September 8th & 9th for my annual workshop-retreat Activate Your Calling.
This year’s 2 day event will be held right in the middle of the San Francisco Bay on Treasure Island! I picked this secluded, beautiful, century-old mansion with catered lunches so that you can truly use this weekend for claiming and creating the next chapter of your life. We will get you unstuck, re-inspired and motivated by integrating the 3 C’s into your reality.